• Let me show you something else

    From Khelair@VERT/TINFOIL to Jas Hud on Saturday, October 11, 2014 12:30:25
    Allow me to show you an email that I got, on the same exact wall of
    text that you were bitching about. Then, try to understand that 'First Responder' is the certification that someone will have if your life needs saving on the street, or maybe even in your home some day, if the straight up EMTs aren't the first ones on the scene. Thank god I had this to balance
    out your ignorance:

    Having you say my words had a positive impact meant so much. Thank you.

    I've been thinking about the comment your date made, "...you can't be the hero that saves the day every day". I have several different thoughts about it. One, maybe she was a bit indignant to have had to wait, and miss out on the time she could have had with you. Or, maybe - even though she is the one that first noticed the man - she felt that he would be o.k. as he was walking around...and was resentful of your choice to help him vs. spend time with her. Obviously she knew he was hurt. I don't know, but I, too, felt that comment was a little off.

    I'm actually a First Responder also, or was at one time. I was told once you are, you always are...but I'm not sure. I do keep my card with me. I know basic first aid, but haven't brushed up for years. Anyway, like you, I do have a little experience in how to act in an emergency. Like you, I feel morally compelled to lend a hand when I'm able to do so without compromising my safety - or anyone else's.

    Her reaction is telling. Like you stated, also, when getting to know someone there are bound to be a few misunderstandings and faux pas as you really begin to understand a person. This could have been just a kind of flippant thing, and not indicative of who she is...or it could also mean that she sees thinks quite differently.

    If I was the date, and this happened...this is what I would most likely have done:
    If I would have kept walking after noticing the guy's injury, and told you about it - it would have meant that I was thinking about the man and cared about his safety. I would have been appreciative that you stopped what you/we were doing, and went to aid him. I would have been proud of you for mitigating a situation that could have turned out way way worse. I would have applauded your thoughtfulness in giving credit to others for managing a dicey situation. I personally would have felt relieved, and so much better, knowing you'd stepped in to help, and had the skills to do so. And that the situation was diffused.

    Why the hell doesn't everyone feel this way....."I do want to be a hero. I've always wanted to be a hero. One that stands for what is good, and right."?

    You did show compassion. When you knew better, you did better. You slept better, too.

    Good for you, dude. Good for you.


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    You should be really ashamed, bro. Even if you're just a teen. One day you'll understand that bullshit like what spread out of your mouth affects the viewpoints and psychologies of others. Does it make you feel better to poke into a cage, with a sharp stick, when you know what's inside feels things acutely, and sensitively? Does it take some of the pressure off of contemplating where your own life, and mental state, is at, when you focus on a target that solely proves you to be someone more focused on being clever (or trying to) than being human?
    If you're a big enough man to put together the words that I'm crazy, why are you not a big enough man to take apart that 'wall of text' and respond in point by point manner about how insane I am? Put some meat behind your ignorant front.

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